We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 days a hug for growth. — Virgina Satir
Men don’t do things by halves, so we’re going for 12 hugs per day. Here’s why:
- Boys usually didn’t get as many cuddles as girls when they were little. So there’s a lot of making up to do.
- Men put a lot of pressure on themselves and a hug will relieve that a bit.
- It can feel pretty lonely being a man.
- Men normally don’t get to hug and be close to their closest same-sex friends.
- Men sometimes forget how to take care of themselves. Hugging is self-care.
- Men actually don’t want “just one thing”.
- People often expect men to be violent/aggressive. This is not that.
- Men are often considered to be expendable. A hug shows they’re not. The people hugging the men need hugs, too.
- Our society tends to see the role of men as productive actors in the economy. Now they get to be cooperative huggers.
- Men sometimes numb themselves out and hugging unnumbs. (Well, a good hug does.)
- Men care about other people and want to make friends.
- Men are human, too. (But that’s for another post.)